tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11859383311189860222024-03-13T03:25:42.049-07:00Open Minded EventsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1185938331118986022.post-12060392767020015932009-07-01T08:34:00.000-07:002012-12-18T23:09:51.491-08:00<span style="font-size: large;"><br />ALL MALE PARTIES </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;">- hot men, cool atmosphere<br />- no pressure environment<br />- ok to just come and watch </span></span> <br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;">- events are offered once a mont<span style="font-size: large;">h</span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: large;">- some parties have themes </span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;">- all are held in a private res<span style="font-size: large;">i<span style="font-size: large;">dence</span></span></span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: large;">- located in</span></span> dupont circle area / washington, dc / usa</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1185938331118986022.post-27995725750451816352009-06-01T00:00:00.000-07:002014-04-19T23:05:10.250-07:00all male parties<span style="font-style: italic;">who comes? what happens?</span><br />
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Open Minded Events' all male parties are for guys in their 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s. men who identify as gay, bisexual, and bi-curious are all welcome at these events. MSMs (men who have sex with men) who don’t identify with any of the above terms are also welcome at these events. all male parties occur regularly - some in the late afternoon, some in the evening, some at night.<br />
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the guys who come are height/weight proportionate, attractive, drug and disease free, and open minded. to prevent embarrassment you should be in-shape, and either "handsome," "good looking," "hot," "cute," or "nice looking." being "in shape" is simple, it means your body is attractive, in a mainstream cultural sense. specifically, it means you are either naturally fit, or you regularly engage in physical exercise to help you keep fit. you should also be clean and healthy, and willing to practice safer sex. <br />
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expect variety: there may be a bodybuilder as well as a slim runner; there may be a toned smooth guy as well as a hairy dude with a nice beefy ass, and there may be different ethnicities than your own. if a guy is at one of these parties, he is very likely to be considered attractive by most men's standards. so, is everyone an abercrombie model? no- this is for real people, who may or may not have runway looks, but they are fun, sexy, open minded types. bottom line is, everyone's easy on the eyes. they may be considered eye candy, sexy, crunchy, tasty, sweet, or humpy.<br />
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these are naked group parties. they are well organized, well attended, and a lot of fun. however, if you want to be part of them, you should read through this website - that way you will know what they are really about, and you can decide if they are really for you. plan on spending five to ten minutes reading and going through the links.<br />
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all male parties involve body contact, kissing, fucking, sucking... good hot action between men. most parties are open ended, vanilla-type play, although occasionally a party will have a kink or fetish theme (like underwear, bondage, or watersports). this is a scene that many guys dream of - yet only a small percentage act upon. <br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">does it ALL have to happen?</span><br />
let’s start with a basic point: you don't have to have sex with anyone if you don’t feel like it. Open Minded Events is a very easygoing, casual scene, and people tend to start in with anyone they like. start touching, and the other person usually responds in a way that says "continue", or they might casually move away or something. perhaps a third guy may join in... typically the sex becomes small groups of two, three, or four men. more than that, and it’s harder to coordinate everyone's body, but sometimes it happens as well! anyway, you are free to move out/away from the small group (let's say, of four people) and move on to someone else, at any time. or just take a break, get a drink, hit the bathroom, or sit back and watch the action. whatever - it’s <span style="font-style: italic;">your</span> party.<br />
_________________________________________________________Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1185938331118986022.post-80970347999987698922009-04-01T23:24:00.000-07:002014-04-19T23:07:02.886-07:00the details / getting invited- events take place every month of the year. <br />
- these parties occur at various times - some in the later afternoon, some in the evening, and some at night. <br />
- each party has three 20 minute arrival windows, so you have flexibility in when to come - and the second and third “waves” always bring new people to meet.<br />
- you can respond to an event several days or weeks beforehand, but if you are more spontaneous, you can respond on the day of the party. in fact, you can even respond up to 30 minutes before a party starts!<br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">location:</span><br />
- the events are held in a private apartment in the dupont circle neighborhood, located in northwest washington, dc. the actual address will be given to you once you are on the door list for a particular event.<br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">alcohol and drugs:</span><br />
- these are drug-free events. you may NOT bring any drugs (no crystal, crack, g, k, 420, powder... hopefully this is “crystal” clear). poppers are ok to bring- after all it’s just “video head cleaner,” right? however, poppers are not supplied. <br />
- alcohol IS allowed, but you will have to supply it. hence, these are BYOB events. please note, for everyone: getting drunk at one of these parties is NOT cool. no one wants to have sex with a sloppy drunk (well, most people don't.)<br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">how much:</span><br />
there is no set fee for these events, although a <a href="http://openmindedevents.blogspot.com/2008/12/fee-donation.html">donation</a> is requested to cover the supplies and other party expenses. first timers: if you’ve never been to an Open Minded Event, a donation is NOT requested for your first party. one of the great things about these events is that there's always new faces, and not asking first timers for a donation is one way to encourage that. <br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">to get invited, you must be cleared for events: </span><br />
good news - it's very easy to do!<br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">how to get cleared for events:</span><br />
just send an email to havingparties (at) gmail.com<br />
in the subject line write “want to get cleared for events”<br />
in the email, include the following:<br />
-your height, weight and age<br />
-a face pic<br />
-a <a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2008/12/photos.html">naked body pic</a> (ok to block your face in it)<br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">blurry pics, distant pics, or pics of you with sunglasses just don’t cut it. <br /><br />and sorry, guys... please do not send a close up pic of your cock as your only naked body pic. it's just a <span style="font-style: italic;">PART</span> of your body - and you're a complete man. i hope.</span><br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">how to rsvp for an event:</span><br />
you must first be cleared for events. you'll get an email invite for a particular party, and you can respond to it whenever you like. it can be several days or weeks beforehand, but if you are more spontaneous, you can respond on the day of the event. in fact, you can even respond up to 30 minutes before a party starts.<br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">can i bring a friend along?</span><br />
yes. you may bring a friend who hasn't previously been cleared for parties. as long as you have been cleared, you may bring up to two other guys for any event. but please, do these things...<br />
1. BRIEF YOUR FRIEND about the parties. tell him if there’s a theme. let him know there’s no pressure to do anything he wouldn't want to do (even to get naked). and let him know that a donation is normally requested, but not for his first time attending.<br />
2. (this one is Very Important) LET ME KNOW beforehand. it would be a real drag if i had to turn someone away because there wasn’t space. and then, you would look like a real jerk to your friend.<br />
_________________________________________________________Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1185938331118986022.post-49046928912033956392009-03-15T00:02:00.000-07:002011-06-23T16:55:23.032-07:00but... but...<font size="4"><span style="font-style:italic;">if you're like some people, you like the idea of this, but you also have some reservations. read below to see who <span style="font-weight:bold;">you</span> are most like - and click on his name.</span></font size="4"><br /><br /><font size="2">for <span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-jack.html">JACK</a></span>, going to a sex party is the ultimate fantasy. he's so excited about it that nervousness overwhelms him, and then he can’t bring himself to actually attend.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-tyrone.html">TYRONE</a></span> masturbates to the thought of being in one. but he’s afraid that in an actual party, some of the guys may be overbearing. and if he's attracted to someone, he doesn’t know how to start an interaction.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-thomas.html">THOMAS</a></span> is worried that he might see someone he already knows.<br /><br />Eric thinks he’s up for this, but he would want to go at his own pace. he doesn’t think he’s ready to participate in a full-on orgy. he’d rather start slowly - maybe just by being in an erotically-charged atmosphere. <a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-eric.html"><span style="font-weight:bold;">ERIC</span></a> definitely likes the idea of meeting some new, open minded guys.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-jim.html">JIM</a></span> likes playing with girls, but recently found himself jerking off to gay porn. he would love to see a guy fucking another guy up close, but if he goes to a party, he knows he’ll probably want his mouth around some dude's dick - and Jim wonders how that would play out.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-patrick.html">PATRICK</a></span> is worried about safety. he wants a group sex scene, but isn’t sure how to keep from getting an STD. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-anton.html">ANTON</a></span> found just what he wanted - an all-male party has been a fantasy of his for a while. he’s confident about his looks, and is ready to go - except he doesn’t want to do something inappropriate and embarrass himself.<br /><br /><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2011/05/im-like-harris.html"><span style="font-weight:bold;">HARRIS</span></a> knows he would have fun. he’s been to Open Minded Events before, and blew some really great loads. but for the last daytime party, a work meeting kept him from attending. and for an upcoming evening party, his girlfriend may want him to be with her. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-yossi.html">YOSSI</a></span> was invited to male orgy once, but talked himself out of it, concluding there wouldn’t be enough hot men there for him. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-diego.html">DIEGO’s</a></span> concerned that in a group scene, his dick might not get hard.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-josh.html">JOSH</a></span> is worried that everyone there will be more experienced than him... or, they'll have some sort of attitude. he also worries that the group will be made up of weird perverts...<br /><br />and as for <span style="font-weight:bold;"><a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-mike.html">MIKE</a></span>? he’s not interested in the "but's" above. he's already been to group events, and is ready for some other <span style="font-style:italic;">butts</span>. however, he just moved to DC - and doesn’t know where to find this sort of thing.</font size="2"><font size="3"><br />_________________________________________________________<br /></font size="3"><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><span style="font-style:italic;">how about you?</span></span><br />click on the man’s name who you are most like. unless you’re like Mike, and ready to read about these Open Minded Events, because here they are: <a href="http://openmindedevents.blogspot.com/2009/06/all-male-parties.html">ALL MALE PARTIES</a><br />_________________________________________________________<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjgn2G9vc1rbRqvp6QNLnrOJw74R7hmLzJDyNd7JwiHCYkHowlKpuZbcrfkjegXAjXYv4UpB_GTjuS1g2_H3EvW3WP3vtpNpVhVwB8PfP0ujjcgyLzlr-filMPTa89Iu796wNnNNga-DMB/s1600-h/7guys.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjgn2G9vc1rbRqvp6QNLnrOJw74R7hmLzJDyNd7JwiHCYkHowlKpuZbcrfkjegXAjXYv4UpB_GTjuS1g2_H3EvW3WP3vtpNpVhVwB8PfP0ujjcgyLzlr-filMPTa89Iu796wNnNNga-DMB/s320/7guys.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5410779625312662354" /></a><br /><br /><font size="4"><span style="font-weight:bold;">Open Minded Events</font size="4"></span>: small group, chill gatherings with good looking, in-shape, open-minded men. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><font size="4">Hot, Alternative, Satisfying. </span></font size="4"><br />_________________________________________________________Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1185938331118986022.post-33409642567561113232009-03-01T23:03:00.000-08:002013-11-03T21:15:59.783-08:00etiquetteetiquette is a big subject. take a few minutes to read through this section now, and prevent embarrassment later.<br />
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- Open Minded Events has a few house rules:<br />
don’t arrive before the prescribed time<br />
smoke tobacco products only in the kitchen area<br />
use condoms on insertive toys<br />
always use a condom when requested to do so, and don't pull one off in the middle of the act <br />
don’t hang out in the apartment hallways<br />
look and act discreet when entering the building<br />
don't bring or use any cameras or videos<br />
don't bring or use any illegal drugs<br />
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- arrive clean. you should be freshly showered, and <a href="http://questionland.thestranger.com/questions/4537-best-method-of-cleaning-your-butt-hole-out">cleaned out</a>, if planning on any ass play. the only exception to this would be if you are going to a specific raunch-themed event, like a party focusing on scents or sweat.<br />
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- don't arrive drunk or drugged. and don’t become drunk or drugged at the event. <br />
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- please be respectful of my time right before an event starts. i am often swamped with setting up. don't email or call an hour or two before to ask if the party is still on, or to find out who is coming. if you are unable to come for some reason, contact me through the most likely way possible (email, phone) to let me know.<br />
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- you are asked to arrive <span style="font-weight: bold;">within</span> a certain timeframe. please do so. this is different than a “regular” social gathering, where it’s often cool to arrive late. <br />
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- at the outside security entry system to the building, buzz up and say something like, “hey, it’s Chris.” be general; no need to say “i’m here for the party” or anything like that. <br />
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- at the door to my apartment, be discreet. when it's opened, just say hi and come in - please don't start talking about the party or sharing a sexy screen name or other stuff while you're still in the hallway. my neighbors can hear through their doors; discretion is appreciated.<br />
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- as soon as you're inside my apartment and the door is closed behind you, you’ll need to give your email address. keep things smooth and be ready to offer it. don’t just say, “hi, i’m Johnny” - this sort of info is not enough to identify you. plus, you as Johnny in clothes may look very different from the Johnny naked pics you sent to get cleared - and that could be awkward.<br />
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- make your donation at that moment too, as you are getting checked in. a generous donation is really appreciated. please remember that without a good amount of time and effort, these sort of events can not take place. <br />
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- think about the guy letting you in. for the moment, he is busy watching the door, and it is inappropriate to make moves on him. if you know you can play with him later, it’s ok to flirt, but don’t expect much action from him while he’s handling the door.<br />
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- refrain from expectations. when you come into a room of naked people, you'll see some you would like to play with, and some you would not. realistically, there will always be someone in a group that you do NOT want to play with. your role as a sex participant should be to focus on what you like, minimize what you don't like, and through it all, BE COOL about it.<br />
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- if you don't initially see what you like, you should pull yourself together. stay in the room, and just hang out. give yourself time to chill a little, and take in the scene. a mature sex participant knows that the first twenty minutes of entering a room is nothing like the next twenty minutes, or the next twenty minutes after that. sex is taking place around you! naturally, things like atmosphere and mood change quickly in this arena.<br />
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what is especially <span style="font-style: italic;">not good</span> is to leave shortly after entering. it not only makes you seem shallow, but it also leaves a terrible taste in literally everyone's mouth who is left behind. imagine the sense of rejection that is felt by everyone remaining. it doesn't matter how hot they are, or how hot - or not - you are... when someone enters a participatory sex play scene and leaves shortly thereafter, the remaining people feel like shit. because, as we all know, if you were witnessing The Hottest Sex You've Ever Seen, you definitely wouldn't be departing so soon.<br />
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“but i didn’t want to be there!” you might think. <br />
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still... why should your manners go out the window, just because it’s a sex party? a polite person wouldn’t just pick up and leave, immediately upon entering a “regular” social party. if nothing else, it’s about being respectful. so leaving quickly leaves a mark on you: everyone else can see that for you, this party is only about YOU, and what YOU want. once a host realizes this, you stand little chance of being invited back. <br />
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- in any sort of sex group play - whether it's a threesome, or small group, or whatever... you should consider what i call the “Twenty Minute Rule.” this basically means that you don’t want to monopolize someone for the whole party. it’s as inappropriate as if you went to a cocktail reception for two hours, and talked with one person the whole time. if you’re grooving on another person at an Open Minded Event, you should definitely enjoy them - but after a period of time, it may be better to exchange contact information for the future.<br />
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- be aware that at a sex party, asking someone out on a date can result in a very awkward situation. many men who go to Open Minded Events are not looking to date or find a relationship. certainly, many guys at sex parties enjoy casual sex, group sex, or both, and may not be interested in anything different.<br />
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- if you do decide you'd like to see someone outside of a party, make that move yourself. do not contact your host after an event, requesting another partygoer's information, or requesting that your host forward your info on to the other guy.<br />
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- when a scene is taking place: <br />
if it’s a dom/sub thing, or some form of bdsm play, or some role play, you should not interrupt, and although it might be ok to witness, you should refrain from being loud.<br />
if it’s people fooling around, and you feel you can join in, see if you can join them by using one of the methods described in <a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2009/11/im-like-tyrone.html">Tyrone’s concern</a>. be prepared for a 50% chance of acceptance, and a 50% chance of rejection. if you do get rejected, don’t take it personally.<br />
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- even if you are on a mailing list for events, you’ll need to have confirmation for a particular event before you just show up. if you think you can show up at a party just because you have the address and know the date, you may not only be kicked out, but also kicked off the invite list permanently.<br />
_________________________________________________________Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1185938331118986022.post-29545807993944044492009-02-01T23:00:00.000-08:002012-12-18T23:13:24.951-08:00discretion<span style="font-style: italic;">i am discreet. i really need to be...</span><br />
the need for discretion is completely understandable. virtually everyone who is interested in these events wants to be discreet on some level. there may be a multitude of reasons for this, but they are all very good. therefore, NO information about people who come is shared with anyone else. you cannot get a description of men who are coming to a particular event, or see photos of men who will be attending.<br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">but you want me to send pics of myself to you. why do you need to see my photos?</span><br />
pictures are needed because guys who attend are easy on the eyes. it would not be fair to offer these sorts of events and say the men were attractive, if they were not. the obvious way for me to ascertain that is to see what people look like. i do not share your photos with anyone. nor do i masturbate to them (sorry, but i don't get off that way). somehow, though, you need to trust that i am not going to fuck around with your information. i mean, look what i am doing! i'm just trying to put together some good parties. <br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">is there ANY way i can do this without sending you pics?</span><br />
hmmm - let me guess. you have a really important job, and feel you can't take the risk. or you're in the military and there's no way - - no how. maybe you can't take the chance because you're super nervous that your spouse/partner/boyfriend/girlfriend would somehow find out. or, perhaps you just hate the way your current photos look.<br />
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well, the answer is... <span style="font-weight: bold;">yes!</span> <a href="http://openmindedhelp.blogspot.com/2008/12/photos.html">click here for additional details.</a><br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">can’t i just show up?</span><br />
no, you can not just show up. for the reasons above. i run quality events; if you were coming you would not want me accepting other people who i had never seen. somewhere along the line you need to trust that i am real, i am honest, and i have kick-ass parties...<br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">are cameras allowed? </span><br />
no, there are absolutely no cameras allowed. no videos cameras, no still cameras. and because most cell phones have cameras, <span style="font-weight: bold;">the use of cell phones is banned in all places except the kitchen</span>. <br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">is the location discreet?</span><br />
yes. these events are held in a private, clean, security-entry apartment building. therefore, outside the apartment, or even inside at the front door, it is inappropriate to talk loudly about sex stuff. if you are attending an event, you should dress and act appropriately when arriving and leaving. in lobbies, elevators and hallways, be discreet in your talk, and don't say anything about the event. try not to use hallways or stairwells for conversation. if you need to leave to converse, it might be better to take a stroll outside, away from the building. <br />
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<span style="font-style: italic;">can i be anonymous? can i use a different name?</span><br />
some people who attend these events do aim to be anonymous. of course you can use a different name, if you choose. until you know someone well, it’s not really good manners to ask the typical questions heard in other social situations, like “where do you work?” or “what’s your last name?” better to give the anonymity to those who want to be anonymous.<br />
_________________________________________________________Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1185938331118986022.post-16577025999469822582009-01-01T22:53:00.000-08:002010-10-17T07:58:53.311-07:00the don’ts- please, <span style="font-style:italic;">don’t</span> ask me for pics of who’s coming.<br />i will not give out that information. <br /><br />- please, <span style="font-style:italic;">don’t</span> ask me if a party will be hot.<br />the parties are hot. you'll have a good time. really.<br /><br />- please, <span style="font-style:italic;">don’t</span> ask me how many guys are coming, their ages, what they get into, or any other stuff like that. <br />i am busy putting together these events. i don't really have time to give you stats about the door list.<br /><br />- please, <span style="font-style:italic;">don’t</span> arrive before the arrival time.<br />i'm notorious for pushing things to the last minute. so even five minutes before is too early. even one minute before.<br /><br />if i've referred you to this page, then you've done one of "the don'ts." <br />however, please do not worry - i'm not mad. i'm just clarifying things for the future.<br />_________________________________________________________<br /><br /><font size="2"><span style="font-style:italic;">(hmmm, this may be a good time for you to take five or ten minutes and read through the whole website...)</span></font size="2"><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgS2NhI8JpfBtZoGdol84iCbE6Kg88RJm2gZFpKji2MntVguzI5jPpnueHgTrXKtFxQsPzpKCC0qUmGrR4Brd1BKXWZT_IRGYVU_aTEARiTzmYu9nE136k08a6ABEChIQMZHuBpbykrfcQk/s1600/gay-asian-amateurs-3.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 214px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgS2NhI8JpfBtZoGdol84iCbE6Kg88RJm2gZFpKji2MntVguzI5jPpnueHgTrXKtFxQsPzpKCC0qUmGrR4Brd1BKXWZT_IRGYVU_aTEARiTzmYu9nE136k08a6ABEChIQMZHuBpbykrfcQk/s320/gay-asian-amateurs-3.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5529029521425475906" /></a><br />_________________________________________________________Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1185938331118986022.post-67588497328660943822008-12-01T22:52:00.000-08:002010-10-17T08:00:55.131-07:00fee / donation<span style="font-style:italic;">is there a fee? or a donation?</span><br />there is no fee for these events. and if it’s your <span style="font-style:italic;">first time attending</span>, there is no donation requested, either. however, if you choose to come back for other parties, i DO ask for a donation.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpLrpFKQpy53nmIAWCE2q6FECx48G7CxIF9qREReKKvHGzCXJHVL10l6sehUdJeKEioH8TuDCPwzB7phzgLwU3h6sRZiKNSi7pIqBFOUrA5vx9EeYwrOsNPU1d_ZYiYRZYjjr9pv_WmuOy/s1600-h/081204a.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 213px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjpLrpFKQpy53nmIAWCE2q6FECx48G7CxIF9qREReKKvHGzCXJHVL10l6sehUdJeKEioH8TuDCPwzB7phzgLwU3h6sRZiKNSi7pIqBFOUrA5vx9EeYwrOsNPU1d_ZYiYRZYjjr9pv_WmuOy/s320/081204a.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5410901351512069090" /></a><br />you see, for these events i supply condoms, lube, bottled water, and trash bags. of course, i’m also supplying a private, clean apartment. there’s a good vibe in the air - it’s comfortable, with excellent music, nice lighting, and great design.<br /><br />to cover costs for these things, as well as clean up afterwards, i ask for a donation of $20 - $40 per person. you can give as much or as little as you like, within the suggested range. just so you know, i spend a TON of time recruiting for these and then pulling them together, and of course i am not paid for my time. i am not looking to make money, but neither am i looking to lose money (i am giving up work time each day i have an event.) i request that you donate generously, in proportion to your income, and with a concept towards the value of this. i mean, it’s a very unique party... you’re going to have a great time. think: what is THAT worth to you?<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjS7TGu14S3IBte4KIkJoeyZE0Wm1U74zAj4OgxaxbEca9rD8Ewaer9O8TgmB7kG_sIm6Kqpf20wZTSB42I_k4aSsNaziY7p1OpqVbCNrWJ-eiSN9Z1QJLIbjYktGQcNl0sMkiGXncvYcm/s1600/photo.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 209px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjS7TGu14S3IBte4KIkJoeyZE0Wm1U74zAj4OgxaxbEca9rD8Ewaer9O8TgmB7kG_sIm6Kqpf20wZTSB42I_k4aSsNaziY7p1OpqVbCNrWJ-eiSN9Z1QJLIbjYktGQcNl0sMkiGXncvYcm/s320/photo.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5529030077977581618" /></a><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">um... tell me, what's with the trash bags? </span><br />if you’re getting naked, you can take a plastic trash bag and put your clothes in it. write your name on the bag, tie it up, and your stuff will be safely stowed.<br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">i’m still stuck on the idea of giving a donation...</span><br />that’s why i won’t request one of you for your first event. i know that if you come once, you’ll very likely want to come again. i also think by attending one of these, you’ll quickly realize the donation is minimal compared with what you get out of it. try one out - and see for yourself that these parties really are hot. you’ll be entering a scene with good looking, in-shape, open minded guys - can things get much better?<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsHA-bpq2CrIFwYblDTk_KgmDETFrzaZNxYCqAJnoxBh6W4JII6jwqEDfrKx6IEElaYGHV3a6zy0MfczeCDkjN-puqoYTeM1fuzj0NUNfHq0ncsETDJYElIpYTJUapWgEiXzlSsVt3sVf1/s1600-h/ws+a.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 198px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsHA-bpq2CrIFwYblDTk_KgmDETFrzaZNxYCqAJnoxBh6W4JII6jwqEDfrKx6IEElaYGHV3a6zy0MfczeCDkjN-puqoYTeM1fuzj0NUNfHq0ncsETDJYElIpYTJUapWgEiXzlSsVt3sVf1/s320/ws+a.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5410901526729540114" /></a><br /><br />_________________________________________________________Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1185938331118986022.post-24004322021888706052008-11-01T22:32:00.000-07:002012-12-18T23:14:21.340-08:00your host<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgusE-DoHj-6m7hAHlBiRE16z4I1yWcWj9NvC0KICnEqXzXqfjuevR6ktMDsIXV3hb-8_Xf6KSEORV5jmkJ1uRazQ_f2PpiccN7roy4Yn5ZDBJcfTnjGnEux3iZ6_hXLIi0AQFaV3-AD6E0/s1600/frommouthdown.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5404959217990113410" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgusE-DoHj-6m7hAHlBiRE16z4I1yWcWj9NvC0KICnEqXzXqfjuevR6ktMDsIXV3hb-8_Xf6KSEORV5jmkJ1uRazQ_f2PpiccN7roy4Yn5ZDBJcfTnjGnEux3iZ6_hXLIi0AQFaV3-AD6E0/s320/frommouthdown.jpg" style="cursor: hand; cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 320px; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 125px;" /></a><br />
hi! i'm your host. i've been having these events in dc for about 8 years now. i host them because i really enjoy creating an erotic, sexual, chill atmosphere for people. it’s fun to help people have new experiences within such a sphere. and yeah, i enjoy playing in that sphere, too. <br />
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that's my pic. if you come to a party, you can see the rest of me!<br />
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